What does the Bible say about divorce?

Divorce is a major problem in our nation. The current statistics suggests half of all couples who marry will get a divorce. Though the recent marriage debates have been focused on homosexual marriage, divorce is an issue dealt with in the Bible. The Bible addresses divorce in clear and concise language. The Bible also makes a couple statements about divorce that are not immediately clear and understandable. In an article of this nature space and time do not allow a thorough discussion of all the passages related to divorce. Therefore, the focus in this particle article will be the clear Bible passages about divorce. The more difficult questions and passages relating to divorce will be left to be addressed by themselves in later articles.

God designed marriage to be permanent. Genesis 2 tells that God created man, woman and marriage. In God’s creation work He gave the parameters for marriage and by which all marriages are still bound. Genesis 2:21 says, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they two shall be one flesh.” In Mark 10 Jesus is asked about the lawfulness of divorce for any reason. In His answer, Jesus quotes Genesis 2 and then adds this statement, “What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put assunder.” Marriage is designed by God to be a permanent union of one man and one woman. Divorce is a violation of that Divine direction. The original created order still orders marriage.

Because of man’s sin God does at times permit divorce. The question about divorce brought to Jesus in Mark 10 found it’s Biblical support in Deuteronomy 24. The Old Testament law provided an orderly means for a man to divorce his wife if he found some uncleanness in her. The law of Moses provided reasonable instructions for civil divorces to maintain order in the state and to provide protection for those involved in divorce. These Old Testament instructions do not require or approve of divorce, but give direction for orderly civil conduction a difficult matter. In Matthew 19:9 Jesus refers to Deuteronomy 24 and tells the uncleanness for which divorce is allowable. “Whoseover shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery.” Jesus says divorce is permissible in cases of sexual unfaithfulness.

One other Biblical passage seems to permit divorce, 1 Corinthians 7. In that chapter Paul says that in the case of an unsaved spouse leaving a saved spouse, the Christians is to let him (or her) go. The Christian is not to seek a divorce, but if the unbeliever divorces him, the Christian is not to oppose it. Sexual unfaithfulness and an unbeliever’s desertion are the only two exceptions found in the Bible which permit divorce. These exceptions are not indications of general approval for divorce, but provide a measure of protection to more or less innocent spouses in a couple specific cases.

God never commands divorce, even in those cases in which divorce is permitted. The one married to an adulterer is not bound by the Bible to get a divorce. In fact, the Bible gives specific examples of individuals who were married to serial adulterers and remained married to the glory of God. The believer was never to court divorce from an unbeliever. He was instead to promote a healthy, whole union for the eternal benefit of the children and the unsaved spouse. Divorced is at times permitted but never commanded.

In the end the issue when discussing marriage and divorce is not an issue of happiness, freedom, tolerance and mental health. The issue is what God’s Word says. God designed every marriage to be permanent. Man’s continued sin corrupts that design, but the plan remains unchanged. Every marriage is a union put together by God and should not be torn apart by any act of man. Though God gives a couple exceptions allowing for divorce, He does so for the protection of marriage and not the frivolous dissolution of the marriage covenant upon any pretext.

Is Evolution like Mathematics?

On the last two Sundays of March the Everlasting Truths team will be airing a two part special broadcast on the debate between creation and evolution. In the weeks leading up to that broadcast, I will be answering several common questions related to origins, science and the Bible.

Many who are of a scientific bent lament the folly of those who believe in creation and accuse creationists of rejecting science. They scoff at creationists and say things like, “rejecting evolution is like rejecting modern medicine” or ask in disbelief, “do you refuse to believe 2+2=4, as well?”. The assertion, at times implied but most often stated is that evolution is proven science. Evolution is just like bacterial and viral models of medicine or like the certainty of basic mathematical equations. Is this a valid claim?

Without arguing about evidence or presuppositions, the legitimacy of this allegation can be considered through a right understanding of the different methods by which scientific conclusions are reached. The first, and primary means, is through what is often referred to as the scientific method. The scientific method is the process by which a problem is considered, a hypothetical solution is suggested, predictions are made, tests are performed, results are analyzed, the hypothesis is refined, more tests are run and after a long series of proving and disproving possible hypotheses, a model is developed which provides a generally accepted answer to the original problem.

The second means of reaching scientific conclusions is used in those cases where direct testing is not possible. In this method a problem is considered, a hypothetical solution is suggested, predictions are made, available evidence is analyzed, and the hypotheses and predictions are refined to agree with the available evidence. As new evidence becomes available the hypothesized model is then refined further and further.

Medical sciences are for the most part observational sciences. An explanation for the source of a disease can by suggested, tested, observed, refined and repeated until the genuine source can be shown with a high degree of certainty. Most mathematics fall into the same category. Much of science takes place in the realms of observational science. However, a number of scientific endeavors take place in the other realm, the realm of conjectural sciences. These kinds of sciences include some portions of quantum physics, consideration of the ultimate structure of the universe (or multiverse if you subscribe to that hypothesis), questions regarding the growth of the universe and beliefs about the development of mankind. The fact that a branch of science is not entirely observational does not make it illegitimate. However, one must recognize the answers provided by conjectural sciences are not of the same quality or reliability as those provided by observational sciences.

Evolution is a valid scientific model. It offers a possible explanation by which to explain the origins of all things. As a scientific model it is constantly being refined as additional data is discovered. However, comparing the evolutionary model to a well-proven scientific theory, like gravitational theory, is nonsense. Evolution is not testable by repeatable experiments. It can only be compared to observations made by scientists in the world and adjusted to match the current observations. Despite its wide acceptance among scientists, evolution is not like math and medicine.

What about Karma?

Karma is the idea that what goes around comes around. Karma is tossed out in casual conversation, especially at times when a bad person has something bad happen to him. Karma is a concept that comes from Buddhist teaching and stresses personal responsibility for actions with an emphasis on cause and effect. Karma is the mystical application of “for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction” to behavior. What happens to one today the was earned by past behavior. One teacher said it this way, “Your world today is just a reflection of your past.” Karma teaches that thoughts and actions are powerful. They carry energy that ripples across the universe and that will eventually echo back to the person who committed them. Karma is akin to the common proverb, “what goes around comes around.” In the eastern religions Buddhism and Hinduism karma is also a reflection of past lives. A person who was bad in past lives may face greater suffering in this life. All wrongs must be atoned for in life and in the end, everything must balance out.

The Bible does not teach Karma. People do not have multiple tries at life and not all wrong will be punished during a person’s lifetime. Actions have consequences, but nowhere does the Bible teach that good in this life will come to those who do good or that evil in this life will come to those who do evil. Instead, the Bible teaches Divine judgment on sin. The Bible teaches that sin has awful consequences. Some of those consequences will be felt in life, but the consequences of sin will be felt most severely after this life. In the end judgment or blessing does not find it’s primary basis in the behavior of the individual. Judgment and blessing is based on the person’s relationship with God. He who has turned to Jesus for forgiveness and salvation will never suffer punishment for the wrong he does. He who has not accepted Jesus as Savior will be punished for all his sin and the good he has done will one day be revealed to be worthless. The Bible doctrine of punishment and reward is a doctrine of eternal judgment or eternal joy based only on a person’s saving faith.

This may seem very unfair. Why are those who ask Jesus to save them absolved from all consequences of their sin? How is it justice for God to ignore all the wrong done by certain people? God remains a righteous judge because He provided a substitute who stepped in and suffered the full punishment of sin. Jesus’ death was more than a horrible injustice done by man to the perfect Son of God. Jesus’ death on the cross was the act of God by which God the Son took the place of mankind and endured in His own body the full and just wrath of God on sin. Jesus paid the complete penalty of sin, spiritual death and physical death, so those who will trust Him for salvation will not suffer eternal consequences themselves. The Bible does not teach a version of karma. The Bible teaches Divine justice which will punish all sin. Either one will suffer the eternal punishment of his sin in his own body or he will in this turn to Jesus to have all guilt and sin removed. The Bible teaches divine mercy which provided a legal substitute and offers that substitute freely to all who will rely on Him for forgiveness.

Why can’t I change?

Every new year many folks set off with good intentions to make positive changes in their lives. Yet, most of these people will be very disappointed. Their resolution will quickly fall by the way side. What started out so well often ends in disappointment. By this time of the year some have already given up on their resolutions.

As a pastor I interact with many men in prison. With very few exceptions these men express a desire and intent to do better, straighten up their lives and avoid future incarcerations. Yet a large majority of them soon return to jail again after release for much the same crimes as they committed before.

Why is it so hard to change? People know certain behaviors are destructive. People acknowledge the problems caused by their actions. A man will admit an action is not a good idea and will probably end in his sorrow. A woman will confess her behavior is hurtful and will leave her in sad state. Despite these admissions they continue down the same bad course. Many set out on a path to make good changes in their lives. Many start well and genuinely desire to be different. Despite this, very few ever change. Why is this?

One of the most important reasons people do not change is their focus is on the wrong problem. The problem is never the problem. The problem is always a symptom of the problem. If a man walked into the doctors office complaining of chest pain, shooting pains in his left arm and difficulty breathing, the doctor will always look deeper than the presenting pain for the problem. No doctor would just give this man aspirin and an inhaler. He would look for major problems with the heart knowing the pains are just a symptom.

So it is with human behavior. The actions and decisions people make are just the symptom. The real problem is a problem of the heart. Jesus makes this point in Matthew 15:19, “For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.” All human behavior comes from the human heart. The way to change the behavior is to change the heart.

No one can change his heart. No more than a heart attack patient can give himself CPR, defibrillate himself or give himself a heart transplant can a man remove and replace the sinful heart that is the core of his being. An outside agency must replace the damaged heart with a new one. The only agency effective to perform a transplant of the spiritual heart is Jesus. To be changed, one must turn from his self dependent efforts and self seeking desires to trust Jesus for full cleansing and transformation. God’s promise is, “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.” In Jesus, the heart is cleansed, the man is made new. With Jesus the heart is changed and the behavior will be changed. Without a change of heart there will be no change of behavior.